Telling people about the blog.
(For those of you looking for details of the full swap we had over the weekend, Mrs. Learning 
, I am sure BB will finish that post up sometime in the near future.)
It’s been a long time since we told anyone from our real lives about the blog. Over a year to be precise. The last couple we told that we had a blog also lost their minds at one point and sent us not so cryptic messages threatening to out us. Nothing ever came of it, but it let me know that I should be a little more selective with those whom I invite into my personal space.
I mentioned in my last post that Hot Doctor had told us that another of her couple friends had stumbled into the swinging word. I also assumed (correctly) that she had told them about us. We actually chatted about stuff yesterday. Desires, Fears, communication issues, we talked about a lot. Granola Mom also said that her husband was a bit apprehensive to things and asked if it were ok if he asked some questions sometime. Of course I say that it’s OK, but I have this thought in my mind to just say, “hey we’ve kept a running journal over the past 2 years. All of the good and most of the bad is written down. I think it will answer a lot of questions and give him the confidence to ask others. “
I think I will send her a link, I just needed to write everything down to see that it sounded like a good idea.
January 19, 2012 at 2:16 pm
It sounds like a good idea, that is probably why it is not. I am of the same mind that it is great to share your experiences. At our local club, SM and I often mentor new swingers (despite only being at it a year ourselves). I could not let anyone I knew into my blog (other than SM) because it would change how I wrote. Rather than calling a swinger date a disaster or describe an encounter as just “OK,” I would be thinking how will this person feel, will they hear from a third party, etc.
For what it is worth, I would say meet them for drinks as often as they would like and share your stories, mentor them and maybe break them in, but avoid letting them into your blog.
Just my 2.3 cents worth – The Canadian Dollar is currently worth more than the US
TTFN
Mr. No Name
January 19, 2012 at 3:31 pm
Too late, I told her and we’ll see how it goes. I am committed to being brutally honest here, there’s no better way to be. We had a disclaimer talk, and now there is no turning back.
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 20, 2012 at 7:06 am
Best of luck – I mean it. A good swinger (or swinger friendly) friend is invaluable. If things go wrong, remind her that she was invited in and can leave at any time.
TTFN
Mr. No Name
January 19, 2012 at 7:54 pm
I’m always afraid to mention any of the blogs/sites I am involved with that have any mention of our sexual adventures included to people we know in real life.
I’ve done it a few times and also had had my blog discovered a few times by people with no major bad things happening, but I still worry.
January 19, 2012 at 9:09 pm
Bah, you dick tease
So waiting…waiting…waiting…but so proud of you.
In life, if you trust them, go ahead if they are lifestyle orientated. I have never mentioned our blog with our friends as yes, I would be totally embarrassed by our fumbles but your blog rocks so good choice.
January 20, 2012 at 6:30 am
I routinely have this urge to share my blog with people I know when a few conversations we have lead me to think they would be cool with it and enjoy it – and that it might lead to a better personal friendship. I have a rule about waiting until the next time I see them to do it. Of the few people I have given the link to, it has been okay or at least not disastrous. By waiting though, I have avoided several huge mistakes. That is, finding out later that I misinterpreted my initial urge to share.
Best of luck to your situation and howdy to your new readers – Granola Mom and her husband!
January 20, 2012 at 10:19 am
We are quite proud of our little piece of the web, and throughout the first year we would let whomever know that we had the blog. In fact, I would get quite disappointed when I would mention we had a blog and the foloow up was not I want to see it. It was not until I found out it could be used as a weapon that I decided that I was happy with the audience I have.
Also, to granola mom, if you want to go by something different you are free to choose your own alias.
January 20, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Hey, it’s Granola Mom here. Thanks Josh for the link, been a great read so far. I think my blog alias is pretty hot (Gwen Fox) so I’m gonna go by that if it’s alright with you. Hope you don’t change or decide not to write something because of me. As I told you before, anything I read will not go any further than between you two, the Mr (I need an alias for him!) and I. Also, I’m a big girl and can take it good, bad or ugly.